Holding Your Baby Too Much: Good or bad?
She’s your first baby, and you just can’t put her down. We understand that mommies could be very fond when it comes to giving care to their newborn baby, and it’s normal. They are helpless and need extensive assistance. After giving birth to a child, the mother must be very careful in giving the proper amount of attention to his or her needs. We all know that there will be changes or development in the baby after it is born.
As a parent, you should be watching out for it and figure out what they mean. If you are a very busy parent, you might consider hiring a nanny; the baby still needs breastfeeding, though. In this case, you can store breast milk inside the bottle in advance. Get a manual or electric breast pump according to your needs and put it in the freezer afterward. Pregnancy and taking care of a baby must expect and well-planned. Make sure you have enough time and money to support the baby. This part of the baby’s life might be one of the most stressful and expensive, so get yourself ready.
For these reasons, we recommend that you take good care of your babies. But as they grow older, you may want to train them to attain real independence through positive discipline.
What is a positive discipline?
Positive discipline is a novelty method on how you build a firm relationship with your baby. It holds techniques that focus on their age, and it considers the way they think about a baby.
It seeks to teach your baby to acquire self-control and the ability to think of themselves, which helps to gain trust and self-confidence automatically. An important reminder you have to bear is that positive discipline is a method that you do not do to the baby but something you do with your baby.
By this point, you might be thinking that discipline related to punishment or hitting, which is the conventional method of disciplining a baby or with the overuse of using the word “no,” but control means teaching and learning. The following will introduce you to the different beneficial techniques that can aid your baby in disciplined positively:
1. Practice a routine:
Your baby gets the habitual idea when the transition of things you do every day is familiar with him or her. The bath time, dressing time, mealtime, brushing time, and bedtime sessions are done in a common time of the day; then, you may expect to increase the cooperation of your baby. Baby’s learn through practicing or doing the same things many times. For instance, at seven o’clock in the morning is usually set for your baby’s breakfast, then at every seven o’clock, he or she will apprehend that it is mealtime.
This technique brings your baby to feel a lot more secure in doing transitions or changes in events routinely or habitually. Your baby thinks that he or she is doing the right thing since it is frequently done or many times. The common routine helps your baby to feel calm and secure. It is a technique that molds your baby’s to motivate a calm and easy way of thinking. In a central case, your baby knows what to wait- upcoming transitions or events.
2. Divert your baby’s attention:
Starting at the age of one, your baby begins to be more playful and active and act with their bodies. Baby will not stop until it satisfies the product of their thinking, which is their ideas and thoughts. When your baby gets so interested in your shoes, and you do not want him or her to play with dirty things, understand that your baby loves to experiment and love to explore. The best technique you can apply when your baby seemed to overly glued at exploring dirty shoes, divert attention through using a toy-introduce it to him or her in a playful manner like, “Hey little angel, my name’s Huggy bear, come and play with me!”.
It will probably take time, but your baby begins to wonder about the introduced new toy and will crawl or walk unsteadily towards it. Play with your baby for a while, and It will probably take time, but your baby begins to wonder about the introduced new toy and will crawl or walk unsteadily towards it.
Play with your baby for a while and make up things, why the huggy bear is interesting. This will help in widening your baby’s imagination. When you notice your baby’s attention fully directed to the huggy bear, then you may proceed to do what you need to do if you are, for instance, washing the dishes. The baby brain is perceived to be curious, so your baby might find the dirty shoes fascinating again, then you may wish to apply technique number one again, practice until it gives way to familiarity.
3. Communicate with your baby:
It is necessary to notice the word “with” as your read technique number three since the word “with” will take most of the dwelling. The word “with” is different from the directory word, “too.” Communicating with your baby means involving or considering their mindset. Stooping down to their level is helpful when you want to communicate with them when you set your limits. Baby understand better if their attention span is redirected to the thing or to the point you are making.
For instance, you want your baby to build a tower using blocks, but he or she throws the blocks on the wall. Technique number three tends to tell you to stoop down to their level. So basically, you will call for their attention and say what you want to say with a business tone of voice and keep it short. Like, “Blocks not made to thrown, can you try to build a tower, instead?” and show your baby how to create a tower, repeat, and practice until he or she imitates you.
4. Avoid using the “no” word:
As you learned in technique number three, you have to stoop down to the level of your baby who is undergoing cognitive development. You cannot say no over and over again since your baby is not going to get it. Learn what your baby needs the same thing to happen again and again before they could get it.
For instance, you told your baby not to play with the phone, and you say no and will get the phone out of your baby’s hands; he or she might do it again tomorrow and plays with it again. In a narrower sense, your baby does not know that “no means never.” Baby, as aforementioned before, take the time to practice before they get the idea that he or she should never play with the phone.
Another situation is when your baby loves to run, and they bump, ending himself or herself getting hurt. And then you come instructing him or her, “No, don’t run!” babies will probably not understand you and will continue to follow the urge of their impulse, which is “love for a run,” then your baby will run and run. Now, technique number four says to avoid using the word no so instead of saying, “No, don’t run!” use “Walk.” It is a real instruction that your baby will understand. Again technique number four diverts the negative instruction to a real short instruction.
5. Offer acceptable choices
Baby will often want their ideas to follow. This technique gives your baby a sense of self-control over the situation, which is the baby’s seasonal favorite. At the same time, it benefits you as a parent by offering choices that are acceptable to you. Like during your baby’s mealtime, you may ask, “Which food do you wanna eat, squash, spinach or potato?” or during your cleaning session, “which do we put in the box first, the animals or the blocks?”. This technique is effective and at the same time, helps the baby to become cooperative and learns self-control.
Instead of attending to each of your baby’s need, we highly recommend that while doing it you also integrate autonomy discipline, this means that you are teaching your baby to acquire positive discipline at their very young age so that they may grow with larger understanding and larger compassion on circumstances in life. So, mommies, it’s not bad to give love, but too much is. Give love and teach them how to live in autonomy as well for their bright future.