Tips for raising a happier and well-behaved child
Every parent always wants to have their kids grow and happy and well-behaved. We have to admit that the attitude and behavior of our kids tend to reflect that way that we make them grow up. Of course, if a kid grows up in a broken family or on the parents that are not very attentive to their needs, they will appear rebellious or misbehaved. This is due to the lack of caring and affection on the earlier days of their lives. So knowing this, parents should be more attentive to their child. They should give more time and effort caring for their children.
Anyway, most of you are already aware of it so we will give you more tips that may be quite new to you. The way your kids grow has a strong impact on how successful their life would be in the future.
1. Don’t make them grow up too fast
It is alright for your kids to act like kids since they are in fact, kid. Let them experience the feeling of being a kid. It is an important part of growing up. Although some parents like to make things faster and force their kids to think maturely, it is still hard to change a kid’s behavior instantly. Kids will be a lot happier if you let everything flow naturally. Don’t force them to grow up too fast.
But, don’t get me wrong, it is still crucial for any kid to slowly learn how to handle things by themselves properly. If they are in the right age already, or when it is already appropriate for them to act maturely, you can now start teaching them new ways of living. They can now widen their way of thinking and steer away from their childish attitudes.
2. Encourage them to make friends
Kids always like to discover new things due to their natural curiosity. That’s why they will always seek out new kids to interact with. Remember, when you were a kid, you always like to play with your fellow kids since they share your passion and interest on things. Have your kids meet new people and teach them how to interact with them properly. Making friends goes easily with kids most of the time, but you can also offer assistance if your kid is quite shy.
It makes them learn new things while having fun at the same time. But, of course, make sure that your kids are associating with right kids too. They will tend to copy some of the attitudes of their peers so you would want to keep them away from bad influences.
3. Let them have some fun
Childhood days are supposed to be filled with wonderful and fun memories, not with sermons and math lessons. Although it is fine to reprimand your kids if they have done something wrong, it is always best to handle things more diplomatically.
Make a deal with your kids. You could tell them that they will get a light punishment if they are not behaving properly and give them rewards if they stay good boys and girls. This method is effective, most of the time, but should not be the center of your way of disciplining your kids. It is ideal if your kids truly understand the importance of behaving properly rather than just doing it for the reward. Have them play their favorite games and maintain a happy home environment. Kids are supposed to have a lot of fun.
4. Ask your kids if something is bothering them
Sometimes your kids might become a bit secretive to you. It may be because they don’t want to disturb you or they feel a bit distant from you that they are not very comfortable sharing their problems. This kind of situation is far from ideal since kids need some help when it comes to personal problems. There is no one more suited to help them than you as their parent.
You should be more sensitive to the moods and needs of your kids. If you are very busy with your work, you should at least allocate a good portion of your time playing or talking with them. Eating breakfast and dinner with the entire family is a good chance to ask them about their day to day experience.
5. Play with them
Yes, it might seem ridiculous playing with a child, but once you get the hang of it, you will enjoy it a lot. You will like their charm, innocence, and sincerity. Also, you might want to improve the bonding between you and your child, playing with them is the perfect timing. They will appreciate you spending time with them. You will earn some respect from them, which makes disciplining a lot easier. Playing with them is one of the easiest ways of communicating with them.
You could play an educational game with them so that they will also learn something in the process. There are a lot of educational game that you could find on the internet. Treat it as their first step in becoming a student someday. But, make sure that the game is fun since that is essentially the most important.
6. Be a role model to them
Since kids look up to their parents as a source of inspiration, you should also act the way you wanted your kids to act. If you want your kids to be interested in their studies, you should also act like you are very interested in attaining a good education. Try to brag about the degrees that you have acquired and discuss how important they are to you.
Also, practice good behavior when you are in front of your kids. Avoid drinking or smoking when they are around. If you show that you have a lot of vices, then they will think that it is acceptable behavior. They may not listen to you if you lecture them about it. Overall, just show that you are doing what you preach. Be a good example to them, and they will surely follow.
7. Don’t be a stranger to your children
Honestly, the last thing that you would want is you kids treating you like a stranger. Although this kind of things seldom happens, you should always make sure that you are not too consumed with your work that you forgot to spend some time with your kids. You will at least maintain a friendly relationship with your kids if you have a busy work schedule. Always, find time to play and interact with them.
Show your kids that they are very important to you. Tell them that you are always looking after them and that they can tell their problems to you. You can ask them about how they are doing at school. Check their grades and ask updates about their daily school activities. Even if you have no time to think about it, just ask them about school so that they will make the impressions that you are looking after them.
8. Make sure that they are getting enough sleep
Although this might seem unrelated, this tip does work in making your kids stay behaved at home and school. Kids need a lot of sleep, and if they are not getting it, they may exhibit some weird behavior. This is due to their brain and body not getting the rest that they usually need. As a result, they will not function at their best.
Lack of sleep doesn’t just affect the behavior of the child; it can also affect their performances at school. So, if you want your kids to get the best out of life, you should let them have their beauty sleep every night.
9. Avoid yelling at your kids
This is a common situation when you have a lot on your mind and your, kids are not behaving, you tend to let out an angry shout which often intimidates your kids. Although we can always control our angry sometimes, we should at least try to be more aware and avoid yelling at our young family members. But, don’t get me wrong, we really can’t completely avoid getting angry at our kids. Even the calmest parent might have yelled at their kids at some point in their life. The point is, keep everything at a minimum level.
10. Be happy
Probably, the simplest advice that we could give to you as a parent is just to remain happy. Cast out all those negative vibes and always remain optimistic even if you are facing some problems. Be lively and energetic so that your kids will feel happy and assured.
If you feel angry, it will feel if you could smile it out so that your kids will not be intimidated. Being a parent and watching your kids grow is a pleasing experience by itself.